Style Era
So you’re really getting your life together and now you're entering your *style era*.
What is your style era? This is the moment were you realize how invaluable having your own personal style is going to be and how much of an impact it can actually have on your life going forward.
A style era goes beyond just looking nice.
This is you deciding to invest in freeing yourself from the societal norms so that you can get in touch with what really speaks to you about clothes and start vibrationally aligning with them.
Why do this?
Because once you start intentionally aligning vibrationally to clothes you start to create outfits that not only amplify who you are, they amplify and expand it for you into the world, creating the life and results you want. Yes you and your clothes have that much power!
The best part is once you are living into who you really are and want to be you will notice your connections changing.
Because you are living into what you love and your truth and it is being amplified through your clothes people will notice in the most positive beautiful ways. Some people may be upset by the change, but that's because they want to keep the known version of you, it has nothing to do with not actually like the true version of you.
You'll start to connect with people in ways that are deeply intimate, honest, and loving because you are showing up that way for yourself and sending the message out to others that you are, and that it is safe and available for them to do so too.
This will attract beautiful connection.
Imagine being yourself and letting the pieces of life fall as they will without feeling a need to control any of it anymore.
Just being, amplifying, and connecting with the life you want.
And if connection is something you desire to have more of, or for it to be more meaningful I highly encourage you to enter your style era.
Although I personally think my 1:1 coaching is the absolute best fit for anyone wanting to create a complete 180 shift with their style, vibration, and connections I am going to tell you exactly what you should do to get started today on your own!
It's so simple, and is worth every second it takes to complete because it will completely change the way you get ready and show up to every single day.
If you're entering your style era, you're going to need a style goal. I've talked about them before, and as I have coached and coached on this I am bringing you the most updated and useful version of the tool! It is what I use to create a life I love in clothes I feel amazing in and it is what my clients use too.
Your closet is an amazing lens that tells the story of your life. Let's change the lens and get started changing the story of your life!
Get a pen and some paper, or really focus here because this is what you need to have the best year in your clothes yet.
A style goal consists of my crystal clear 2 step process:
The first part of a style goal is what is important to you / the function of your clothes - I call them your high standards.
All you are going to do is a thought download on everything that is important to you when it comes to the clothes you wear, or the things that you want to be important to you.
For some it’s comfort, or lots of colour, for others it’s minimal colours, modesty, functionality, quality, brand social responsibility, down to simply being able to throw it in the washer and dryer and not worry about dry cleaning, what’s important to you may be simply feeling good or confident in your clothes as well. Get all of your thoughts out of your head and onto a piece of paper so that you can see every single thing that matters to you.
Doing this as a thought download is important because it's going to take you further than the surface level things, and bring you to your deep burning inner desires, you just have to give yourself the space and time to let them surface.
So what do wish your clothes did for you?
If you are feeling writers block, really think about what the biggest pains can be with your wardrobe sometimes and what would be important for you to have going forward to eliminate that. Think about the things that would make your personal style feel like a 10/10.
Once you’ve written everything out, decide what you want your top 3 high standards to be, or better yet what the version of you that already has amazing personal style would pick.
These 3 things are your non-negotiables going forward.
These non-negotiables are your new high standards for yourself and your wardrobe they help you make better decisions while shopping, choosing what to wear, and cleaning out your closet. It eliminates the overwhelm of feeling lost, being easily influenced away from your true self, and it helps you feel confident in the choices you make (less buyers remorse, and more style success).
For example my high standards are that my clothes fit exactly as I desire them to, I love them, and they reflect who I am. My clothes have to meet this criteria to have a place in my life.
Even if you only do this step, it will change everything for you!
NOW let's get into the second part and tie this all together.
The second part of a style goal is the visual/feeling part - this is the vibrational component.
It is the vibe you want to project out into the world, because it is exactly how you actually want to feel in your clothes. And it's a lot more fun and easy to do than you think!
This is where I have clients create a Pinterest board that is going to be used to inform the visual aspect of their personal style - the vibe they want their clothes to give off, and how they want to feel in their clothes.
Having a visual board reminds and anchors you to what you actually want your personal style to really be (who you really want to be), and helps you to align with it the best you can daily.
Some things to note before you dive into create what might be yet another vision board thinking it won't yield any results for you:
-This is not designed to be a manifestation board (even though it does this), this is designed to guide and inspire you every single time you get dressed, it's a way to interact with your highest self every day.
-You don’t need to know your personal style yet so don't limit yourself while you are looking for things to pin. (Throw out everything you think you know about personal style).
-Expand what you believe you're allowed to wear. What would you love to wear regardless of the rules, your size, and what others think?
-Any outfit that inspires you pin it. You don’t have to have their clothes or want to wear it all, just notice if you like something about it and if it gives you “good vibes”.
-Pin everything that you feel positively drawn to. Notice what feels good before you start analyzing if you can pull it off, when you start doing this you've crossed over into your mind, come back to being in your body and notice the way it physically feels as you look through different outfits.
-Use my example boards for reference, or any of my boards for inspiration if you don't know what to search.
This is where the heart of your style era comes in, is in this step.
All you’re doing is noticing what naturally draws you in. It’s like listening to music, you don’t think about it you just notice how it makes you feel and if it feels good to you or not. This is exactly how you're going to know if it's your authentic personal style or not.
The biggest mistake people make is trying to be realistic and make sure it's practical.
Be unrealistic, notice what naturally draws you in. Get inspired, and connect with who you really are. It is way more fun this way! Creating another board and trying to be realistic about it is boring AF. Be wild and have fun, because it's not about whether or not you can wear whats on the board it's about this next part:
Once you’ve created your style vision board you’ll pull words that are your favourite descriptors BUT what is different is that instead of using words like boho chic, coastal grandmother, old money, minimalist, or cottage core, you are going to use emotions to describe your style aesthetic.
List out all of the overwhelming emotions and feelings that come up for you when you look at your vision board, and pick your top 3-5 for easy memory. You'll notice each example board has 3 words that describe the mood, vibe, or feeling of the style. Mine for example is Feminine, Warm, and Rich. I want to feel, and I want my clothes to make me feel, feminine, warm, and rich. I also want this to be the vibe my clothes give off because it is the inner expression of who I am, and my clothes are my greatest tool to amplify this and drawn all the beautiful amazing things that match that.
The reason you are choosing emotions for words is because this is all about how you want to feel in your clothes, the way you want your clothes to make you feel, and the vibe you want to give off.
If you pick words like Parisian, old money, or even something like minimalist or casual chic, it can feel more complicated and overwhelming to try to figure out.
I notice a lot of us start feeling a pressure to get it “right” instead of focusing on feeling confident and like ourselves in our clothes, which is what causes us to get caught in a loop of feeling like we have nothing to wear, because nothing aligns, and it's also what causes us to feel like personal style is shallow/frivolous.
With emotions you know how you feel about something and if it aligns with what you want, it creates an intrinsic knowing that comes easily because you either feel it or you don’t. You don’t have to guess if something is old money enough or not, or boho-chic or not. You'll just know that something feels feminine to you, that it feels warm, that it feels free, cheerful, creative, divine, etc.
Lastly put the 2 parts together and you have officially entered your style era!
My full goal is : I wear clothes that, I love, fit as I desire, and are an expression of who I am. My personal style is feminine, warm, and rich.
Yours will be your 3 non-negotiables + your 3-5 emotions.
Use this goal for picking outfits, cleaning out your closet, and shopping. It will guide you through anything when it comes to clothes and embodying who you are in them.
Live into this goal and watch your life change.
Bonus put the board up in your closet and on your phone with your written goal and use it to inspire your outfits and re-align you with what really matters to you whenever you need it.