Hot Takes Part 2
Getting controversial again, Let's Go!
Disclosure these are my opinions, it’s okay if you don’t agree, this is all in good fun!
1. You don’t need anything that is being pushed onto you right now - the holidays are approaching and every influencer might be telling you would feel better if you bought a bunch of stuff but you’d feel better if you went to therapy or hired a coach.
2. You don’t have to keep communicating or connecting with people that cross your boundaries just because they are family and they are going to be around you more over the holidays and feels safer to just grin and bare it… Honour your boundaries, and listen to that podcast episode if you want to learn what they are, and when and how to set them.
3. Neutrals / black colour palettes are not easier, they are safer. Let me explain.. for some people these wardrobes align really well but I’ve had many clients start off saying this is what they want because they believe it will be easier. The truth is it’s the same process creating this version of your style as it is one with colour. It’s not easier it it just looks like it from the outside, and it’s definitely not easier if you have no reasons beyond that for liking it. The really interesting thing too is that a lot of clients later on realized it was safer to go with neutrals and blacks because they were less likely to be noticed or draw attention to themselves, which once they found their personal style was no longer a problem.
4. You decide the value of something not the price tag. I have mentioned this before but I play a game when I'm shopping where I decide what I am willing to spend on something before I look at the price tag. I decide the value of something (to me) ahead of time so then I can know that I'm not just buying something based on what others believes it's worth or because it's a good price or expensive.
5. Judging other people for the way the dress is more about you than them. It's usually a reflection of you being uncomfortable with them being comfortable and confident in things that are not the norm. And judging people for what they wear or what their style is is just something we should stop doing altogether. If you don't like something, that's fine and even great insight for you, but it doesn't mean it's bad, ugly, or wrong for someone else to love wearing. Being more positive about other people embodying their style could really change the fashion space in a really beautiful way.
6. Dressing for your age is old news. What does that even mean? How old do you really feel? Who cares if someone thinks you are dressing young or old? What's wrong with either of those things? This is such a silly rule to me and it feels like it's designed to limit you and put you in a box in terms of what you actually enjoy wearing. Don't let people tell you what's appropriate for you.
7. Pointed toe shoes FTW. I'll probably die on this hill. I just do not like square toe shoes (for me), round are okay, I love seeing other people rock them, but this is one trend you most likely will not see me get behind. My explanation for this is I see them as a more edgy style which does not align/fit with mine currently.
8. There is something magical about matching PJ's. There is also an incredible ease to them. And I'm not saying you should only own matching sets of expensive fancy pjs. I'm saying even just wearing the same colour top and bottom can achieve that matching vibe that just feels magical and even calming.
9. You are not limited to shopping where you are "told to". Shop in the mens section, go thrift shopping, learn to make your own clothes, shop in stores that don't seem "age appropriate", get out of your comfort zone and you'll see that there is an abundance of amazing options and if you're feeling stuck, going to places outside of your norm is going to stir up your creativity and get you out of outfit/wardrobe boredom. There are no rules when it comes to where you are allowed to shop except for the ones you place on yourself.
10. Your closet is a reflection of you. Take that how you will. I know this can bring up defensiveness for some people, and for others it can bring immense joy. If you go into your closet right now and you can't get a vibe for the person that wears those clothes (ie. it feels like it could be anyones closet, not just yours) it's usually a sign that you may be feeling a little lost, or even like you are having a style / identity crisis. It's a sign to start getting in touch with who you are when everything else is stripped away (job / relationships / education / accomplishments / etc) and noticing which of those inner qualities you want to start infusing into your closet, wardrobe, and style so that when you do go into your closet it doesn't feel like it could be anyones, it feels like yours. This is a foundational thing that I help women in my 1:1 coaching program do. It's normal to have our clothes start reflecting things about our life instead of who we are but it's possible to change this and feel more at home in your clothes than you ever have before. Book a free consult call if this is something you desire to see change in your life.
Have you're own fashion hot takes? Message me them on IG, I love getting to discuss and connect with you on these topics and unravelling false truths about fashion and style.
Love & Trust Yourself